I hope things go terribly wrong for you
Here's to rock bottom
Thoughts
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When everything is going awfully wrong,
that means it’s going right.
When everything is sideways,
that’s when you know it’s working.
Because no good story is ever written from things going right.
Think about it—when was the last time you read a book or watched a movie with no struggle, downturns or the main character hitting rock bottom?
They wouldn’t have created it otherwise—nor would you have watched it.
When things go wrong, it’s priming you for everything you deserve.
It might not happen immediately—it probably won’t.
You might, and will, be down there for a while. But believe that what’s meant for you will come.
Search for it. Grind. Put it even more hours.
Do the unthinkable. Be unreasonable.
Trust that it’ll all work out for you in the end;
better than you could have ever imagined.
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If it’s not going your way,
it might be because your way isn’t your way.
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When it’s all wrong and you’re at the end of the road,
look for the opportunity.
Look for the win.
Look for the out.
It might be a new skill learned.
It might be a new connection made.
It might be a new idea generated.
It might be a bad idea killed.
It might be anything and everything.
Look for it.
Insights
Steven Bartlett on hitting rock bottom:
“I used to look for spare change behind the couch.”
J.K. Rowling on when everything goes wrong:
“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.”
Robert Downey Jr. on anxiety and overthinking:
“Remember that just because you hit bottom doesn't mean you have to stay there.”
Reflection of the week
Do you feel at an all-time low right now?
If you do, remember that you don’t have to stay there. You’re not meant to.
But it still is within your power to get yourself out of it.
It needs patience. And persistence.
So ask yourself this:
What do I need to do everyday—nonstop—to get myself out of this dark, lonely pit?
And then go do it. EVERY SINGLE DAY.
Nonstop. I’ll meet you at the top.
A good read
My dear friend Max Malterer JUST released his second book, Birthright.
In his own words, here’s a short blurb:
A country votes on banning natural birth—and one young woman stands in the crossfire.
Europe, 2096. In a society shaped by the collapse of global birthrates, almost every child is now a Regular: born in artificial wombs and brought up in state-run Centers designed for perfection. Those born the old way, Natural-Borns, live in their own districts, remnants of a past slowly fading from view.
If you’re into near-future novels, I recommend giving Birthright a read.
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