On believing
Forgive. Forgive. Forgive.
Thoughts
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"It always gets darkest before the dawn"
So have faith that it’ll get better. Some days, it’s a little harder getting out of bed in the morning.
And I have to will myself into doing so.
And I believe that’s okay. As long as you get up.
Be patient and do the work.
Just keep believing and keep going.
I know I’ll get there - and so will you.
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Every person you meet in life has a part to play in your story.
However big or small their part is, be grateful they showed up.
And make sure to let them know.
ps. send them a text or give them a call, it’s small gestures like this that matter.
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I’ve been lucky to go through an intense 4-day experience recently with likeminded individuals where we went together on a journey of belief and understanding.
A lot of things were said. But in a 5AM chat, a few words in particular stood out,
“Forgive. Forgive. Forgive.”
.سامحته .سامحته .سامحته
It’s not for them. It’s for you.
Let go. And forgive them.
You never really know what a person is going through.
Even if you think you do, forgive them anyway.
People around us are inherently good.
No one’s out there to get you.
We just make wrong choices and decisions from time to time.
I know I do - probably more than anyone else.
I don’t intend to, but I’m human.
And so are we all - human.
And life’s hard - for everyone.
Not everyone goes through it at the same pace.
So be kind to them and to yourself.
And forgive them and forgive yourself.
And don’t forget to look inwards, there’s always room to become better. Don’t let people or things go by without learning from them—that is the ultimate loss, beyond that of anything or anyone. Don’t let it be in vain.
Insights
Matthew Perry on becoming famous and realizing it wasn’t the answer to solving his woes:
“I think you have to have all your dreams come true to realise that they are the wrong dreams.”
Adele Faber on empathy and presence - knowing how to differentiate between when the person in front of you needs immediate rescue and compassion instead of lectures, blame or long-term solutions:
“When someone is drowning, that’s not the time to teach them how to swim.”
John Watson on love and letting go:
“The problems of your past are your business. The problems of your future are my privilege”
Reflection of the week
With 2026 right around the corner -
What’s one conversation you’ve been holding off for a while that you’d like to get off your chest?
What’s one decision you’ve been delaying that you know you need to do?
Pull the bandaid off.
A good read
You know I love memoirs. So guess what? Another one.
But, it’s not one of an elite business tycoon. It’s just genuinely a good read. It’s so good, they made a movie out of it.
This week’s recommendation is The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls.
It’s a beautiful read on loyalty, love and resilience. It’s a little sad and painful at points, but what good book doesn’t have those moving arcs? Here’s the movie in case you’d prefer to watch it instead.
How can I help?
I also happen to coach people. I learned from one of the world’s best, Robert Ellis.
Would you like to have a short coaching conversation? Sometimes all it takes is a 90-minute deep conversation to point you in the right direction. Or give you a little nudge. Maybe you just need someone to hear you out. I’m here for you.
I love The Glass Castle!! Probably my favorite memoir to date 🙂